Whenever I see people interacting, I always seem to be looking for rules. Mainly because I never quite seem to understand them, what they are, or who sets them.
Take the example of hugging other people in public.
Hugging in public is almost totally controlled by women (and/or girls).
No - really. Watch the people who initiate the motion - it is almost always a women. About the only exception to this is fathers with small children, when they pick up their little girls.
Further more, its usually continued until one of the parties becomes uncomfortable. Again, this tends to be the women. (As far as I can tell, most men don't object to the physical contact.)
What brought this up? A rather odd scene I saw today, where a young man was hugged (almost assaulted!) in public. She was over him like a tropical rash, and he was clearly uncomfortable with the attention. What was really interesting was that he had no apparent way to end it - until the red-head decided she'd had enough.
He tried everything short of unpleasantness and physical violence - but he had no control.
My question to you is - what other rules are there?
Who rules the roost when two women hug?
Ditto, men?
Who are you "allowed" to hug? When?
Are there exceptions to the "women starts it" rule?
Would it be a crime for a man to hug a women, if she wanted it to be? (I'm thinking sexual assault here...)
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actually a rule would be if a girl says at any given time that she wouldnt mind a hug means she probably wants one :P
So...maybe means yes, yes probably means yes and no MIGHT mean yes?
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